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Something Old, Something New…

Wednesday, January 4th, 2017

Something Borrowed, Something Blue

We’ve all heard the rhyme “something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue,” that led to the custom of including items fitting those descriptions in your wedding ceremony. For brides who value this tradition and want to take part, here are some fun ways to incorporate these into your big day!

Meaningful Links to the Past

When searching for your something old, heirlooms are the obvious choice. Since the something old represents continuity, a tasteful piece of jewelry that belonged to your great-grandmother can be worn as a hair bauble, a handkerchief from a favorite aunt can be carried or sewn into your dress or, if appropriate, you could incorporate your mother’s veil or a piece of her dress into yours. If you have a connection with a male relative, ask for a watch that can serve as your bouquet wrap. Pictures count as old too! A new locket or charm bracelet incorporating pictures of special family members that have passed away can satisfy your something old and something new in one!

Symbols of New Beginnings

Your something new is all about looking to the future. Since you’ve probably purchased at least one piece of your wedding attire, finding your something new is likely the easiest piece of this fun rhyme to fulfill. Many brides choose to designate their wedding ring or dress as the something new. But if your wedding ring is an heirloom or your wearing your mother’s dress, you might have to keep thinking. If nothing pops out at you, a coin minted in the year of your marriage and tucked into your dress is an elegant solution. But look around a little, and you’ll find at this time of new beginnings you have many choices for your something new.

Honoring Who You Love

This piece of the rhyme refers to borrowing happiness, so it’s the perfect opportunity to honor the special people in your life. Borrow the first dance song of a couple you admire, carry a small bag filled with “borrowed” relationship advice from your friends or ask to borrow the something new your mother or grandmother used. Poems, quotes or song lyrics you read at the ceremony are also good candidates for something borrowed. Your something borrowed is a great chance to get creative!

Bolt From the Blue

Blue symbolizes loyalty, so your something blue is important. If you’re wearing a traditional white wedding dress, your “blue” item is likely to be understated. A blue garter is traditional but has been falling out of favor over the past decade. Blue flowers in your bouquet, the date of your wedding discreetly sewn in blue thread on your dress or a piece of blue topaz jewelry are low-key choices that won’t conflict with your overall theme. Of course, you can always abandon the notion that each item needs to travel down the aisle with you, and use your something blue at the reception. Place settings, decorations or even cutting of the cake can fulfill your something blue.

Although most brides forego the final line of the poem “and a silver sixpence in her shoe” you can certainly complete the tradition if you’d like! So whether you choose to incorporate all of the traditional “something” elements in your wedding or not, have fun and make some special memories.

New (Fun!) Wedding Traditions

Wednesday, February 17th, 2016

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Your wedding day is YOUR special day! Don’t get stuck in the thinking that you have to follow the same old wedding traditions that have been around for decades. Modern couples are starting new wedding traditions, and so can you. Think about what you want, and don’t be afraid to do something different. This week, we came up with a few areas where you can start challenging the norm. (more…)

The Scottish Wedding

Thursday, September 25th, 2014

Continuing our world exploration of wedding customs, our tour takes us now to a country the nuptial roots of which wend back to ancient times. Some of these traditions prove quite unique and unexpected. No, we do not visit the Far East, or the vast reaches of Africa. We stop for this blog in Scotland. When I propose certain Scottish wedding traditions seem more Medieval than modern European, I can do so safely and without judgement, for this blogger’s own Celtic grandfather boasts a profile as craggy as the Highlands from which his people came.

Two church traditions are prevalent in modern Scotland, the Christian Presbyterian Church of Scotland and the Scottish Catholic Church. Many marriages combine these two backgrounds, and many ceremonies reflect current trends. But there are also numerous historic touches that still color marriages in that beautiful country, as sure as a vein of gold in a tartan plaid. Here are some of them:

  • “Reeling”: No, not the dance, fun as that is. This is the custom of an engaged man stumbling around under the heavy weight of rocks in a basket tied to his back, courtesy of his friends. He can only escape when his bride-to-be consents to kiss him.
  • A bride’s feet may be washed in a basin of water containing a ring. The first girl to find the ring will be next to wed.
  • “A showing of presents” may take place at the bride’s home, with tea, sandwiches and cakes being served, or there may be a “spree,” the equivalent of a shower.
  • “Taking out the bride” may occur after the “showing” or “spree.” Sometimes the bride is dressed in a costume. She may carry a baby doll, but she and her friends definitely carry pots and pans, on which they loudly beat and sing as they walk through their town. The bride kisses villagers in exchange for money in her pot, which may also contain salt, a symbol of prosperity.
  • The groom gets a “stag night.” You can guess this often involves drinking with his friends, but what you probably won’t guess is that he’s often padded to look pregnant – and may have other embarrassing jokes played on him that could involve the stealing of his clothing!
  • Confetti and bagpipes may serenade the nuptial couple on their way to the ceremony.
  • Shortbread may be broken over the bride’s head for good luck.
  • The groom may give the bride a silver spoon engraved with the couple’s initials.
  • The reception often features more traditional music and dancing.

101 Things To Think About When Planning Your Wedding

Tuesday, March 12th, 2013

So, you said “Yes!” Now what?

Welcome to one of the happiest and yet, most stressful seasons of your life. You have so much to do and so much to think about. Getting started may be the most difficult part. Here are a few (101 is a few?) things to help you start organizing your thoughts.

Wedding To Do ListThings to do first

1. Decide whether or not to hire an event planner. This is an important step. Too many brides end up losing money by skipping this. DIY weddings are for brides with a special abilities. Wedding planners can prevent you from making expensive mistakes that you may make on your own. After all, they have experience!

2. Make a running To-Do-List that you can add to and check off.

3. Obtain a marriage license.

4. Set the date. Do you want a spring wedding? The church is already decorated at Christmas time which can save you money. Maybe a fall wedding?

5.  Throw an engagement party. A little fun in the early stages can do a lot for stress. Plus it will be a learning experience for planning the big day.

6. Pick your wedding theme. Vintage? Modern? Trendy? Traditional?

7. Again trendy or traditional? If trendy, will it be something people laugh at twenty years from now when you are showing them your wedding photos. Bell bottoms anyone?

8. What are your wedding colors going to be? The Perfect Palette is a great place to look for inspiration.

9. Where are you going to have the wedding? Keep this in mind when choosing your theme and colors. Will your guests be able to attend a destination wedding across the country?

10. Check out the venue before making your final decision. Does it fit your theme?

11. Immediately get to work on the guest list! How big is your wedding going to be?

12. Go ahead and register at your favorite stores. Don’t make people rush to find you a gift.

13. How can you make your wedding more eco-friendly?

14. Find a travel agent for your honeymoon. This can be skipped if you need to make room on your budget.

Wedding BudgetMoney Matters

15. Decide how much you can spend on your wedding.

16. Prioritize what is important to you. You may need to give up on a few ideas.

17. Decide what can be rented. There are items that can be purchased for about the same price as they rent for. In those cases, they may make good gifts for your guests or …..

18. You can resell some items to make your money back. Ostrich feather centerpieces are a good example of this. You can purchase them for about the same price as you can rent them. Plus, they often resell for almost 70% of their purchase price! So there is no need to risk renting worn, rented feathers when you can get new ones and make most of your money back.

19. Choose your wedding vendors. Cheaper isn’t always cheaper, if you have to send stuff back and pay restocking fees. Avoid companies that are just cheap knockoffs of reputable businesses.

Black and White Ostrich Feather CenterpieceWedding Decor

20. Escort card displays

21. Wedding Centerpieces

22. Choose the color of your tablecloths.

23. Are you using round tables or rectangular tables?

24. Make sure your chair covers match.

25. What backdrops will you use for your wedding? Wedding Arches and Columns?

26. Choose a florist.

27. Lighting and staging.

28. Cake toppers

29. Napkins. Make sure they match the tablecloths properly.

30. Napkin rings

31. Choose a cake stand.

32. Flameless candles versus real candles. Flameless candles are not as messy, work better outdoors, and make wonderful gifts for your guests.

33. Accenting your decor. What colors are you using tor accents? Search for decorations that match your color scheme and fit in with your theme.

34. Looking vintage or looking dated? If your theme is vintage, make sure that your decor is classy. You don’t want to look out of style.

Planning for the unexpected

35. Allow time for mistakes. Something will go wrong somewhere. Trust me. Don’t do anything at the last minute if you can help it. Allow time for fixing stuff.

36. Order anything that is breakable early. Items like vases can be broken during shipping. No matter how well they are packed, FedEx and UPS can be careless at times. Open up everything as soon as it gets to you. rarely has trouble with breakage, but in the rare cases that we do, we will ship out replacements to you at no extra cost to you.

37. Avoid looking cheesy by bouncing your ideas off others. Run things by your friends and family.

38. Insure your wedding rings! You never know when a diamond may fall out.

39. Wedding tents. Plan for rain! I don’t care what the weatherman said!

40. Measure your tablecloths properly. Click here to learn how!

wedding photographerPeople to Think About

41. Bridesmaids

42. Bridesmaid dresses. What would they want to wear?

43. Choosing the bridal party.

44. Groomsmen

45. Find a photographer

46. Engagement photos

47. Location for engagement shoot

48. Poses for engagement photos

49. Poses for wedding photos

50. Trashy photos??? Think again. Not as funny as you think. I don’t know about you, but I am sick of seeing photos with dresses hiked up and butts being grabbed. It looks dumb and the people in the photos come across looking unintelligent. Your children will see this one day. Don’t do it.  Classy is better!

51. Find a videographer

52. Decide who to exclude from your guest list. I have a simple formula for this. Will there be more drama caused by excluding them or more caused by including them?

53. Find a band or a wedding singer. See them perform first! Remember this movie scene?

54. Choose your flower girl

55. Find a flower girl dress

56. The wedding officiant

57. Seating at the wedding

58. Family participation

59. Transportation to the wedding

Where to Look for Inspiration

60. Pinterest – Enough said.

61. Wedding Forums

62. Visit wedding blogs

63. Avoid bad advice online. See this article I wrote for more!

64. Green wedding inspiration. You can be eco-friendly and still have a beautiful wedding.

65. Check out these places for vintage wedding inspiration:

Don’t Forget To Look Good!

66. Find the perfect wedding dress

67. Don’t forget that dress alterations will need to be made. Everyone goes through this. Don’t cry!

68. Wedding Hairstyle? Updo? Wear it down?

68. Find a hairstylist. Don’t be afraid to say, “I don’t like it!”

69. Wedding makeup. Are you going to hire a makeup consultant? If so, don’t be afraid to say “I don’t like it!”

70. Jewelry! What are you going to accessorize with.

71. Shoes

72. The bouquet!

73. Boutonnieres

74. Losing weight or not. Go to the mirror and look right now! See that? He proposed to you just like that. Use sanity here.

75. Do not crash diet. If you decide to shed a few pounds do it for your health and in a healthy manner.


76. Wedding Cake

77. The wedding reception menu

78. The groom’s cake

79. Hors D’oeuvres

Odds and Ends

80. Wedding favors

81. Make a website. This is a great way to keep everyone informed.

82. Wedding apps! Your wedding… There is an app for that.

83. Choose your wedding Invitations.

84. Decide how to word your invitations.

85. Send out “Save-the-dates”.

86. Plan your reception activities.

87. Write your wedding vows

88. Choose songs for the wedding

89. What song will you do your first dance to?

90. Don’t forget the father-daughter dance!

91. Disposable cameras. Buy several of these for your guests to use. This way, you will have photos from many angles.

92. How long will your wedding ceremony be?

93. Welcome bags

94. Plan the getaway. Wedding sparklers make for a sensational exit. What car are you getting away in?

95. Wedding stationery

96. The guest book

After the Wedding:

97. Choosing a honeymoon location

98. Thank you cards

99. Relax. You made it! Allow yourself to chill out now.

100. Prepare to refocus when going back to work.

101. Have a post-honeymoon date night. Sometimes, there is a little post-honeymoon depression that sets in. You are back at your job and all the attention you were getting fades away. Make a few more special nights and keep celebrating your new life together.